National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Run by Refuge, for women in England
0808 2000 247Free, 24 hours a day, every day. Does not appear on itemised phone bills.
Get support
If you need help, start here
Nothing on this page asks you to give a name, make a report, or decide anything.
In immediate danger
Call 999. If you cannot speak safely, dial 999, listen to the operator, and press 55 when prompted. This is the Silent Solution system: it tells the police you need help and cannot talk. On a landline, staying on the line for 45 seconds without speaking will also connect you.
Helplines
Domestic abuse
Women's Aid live chat and Survivors' Forum
Online support, England
Online chatChat with a support worker, plus a moderated forum for survivors.
Scotland's Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline
Scotland
0800 027 1234Free, 24 hours a day, every day.
Live Fear Free
Wales
0808 80 10 800Free, 24 hours a day, every day. Text and live chat also available.
Domestic and Sexual Abuse Helpline
Northern Ireland
0808 802 1414Free, 24 hours a day, every day. Open to anyone affected.
Helplines
Sexual violence
Rape Crisis England and Wales
24/7 Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Line
0808 500 2222Free and confidential, 24 hours a day. Online chat also available.
Rape Crisis Scotland
Scotland
08088 01 03 02Every day, 5pm to midnight. Text and email support also available.
Helplines
Specialist support
Galop
For LGBT+ people experiencing abuse or violence
0800 999 5428National LGBT+ domestic abuse helpline.
Karma Nirvana
Honour-based abuse and forced marriage
0800 5999 247Confidential support for anyone at risk, whatever their background.
Men's Advice Line
For men experiencing domestic abuse
0808 8010 327Confidential advice and support.
Respect Phoneline
For people worried about their own behaviour
0808 802 4040Confidential help to stop being abusive towards a partner or family member.
Suzy Lamplugh Trust: National Stalking Helpline
Stalking and harassment
0808 802 0300Practical advice on evidence, safety planning and reporting.
Samaritans
If you are struggling to cope
116 123Free, 24 hours a day, every day. You do not have to be suicidal to call.
Staying safe online
Covering your tracks
Being watched online is part of how control works.
Cover your tracks online
A browser keeps a record of the pages you visit. If someone else can reach your device, use a phone, computer or tablet they cannot access: a friend’s, a work machine, or one at a library. Private or incognito browsing helps, but it is not invisible to monitoring software installed on the device itself.
The EXIT button
The EXIT button at the top of every page sends you straight to a weather site and replaces this page in your browser’s history, so pressing back will not bring it up again. You can also press the Escape key twice. It cannot clear a history record made earlier in your visit, so use it together with the advice above.
Your phone may be monitored
Location sharing, shared cloud accounts, family plans and tracking apps can all report where you are and what you look at. If you suspect your phone is being monitored, do not remove the software before you are safe: a sudden change can escalate risk. Speak to a helpline first and plan it with them.
Emails and messages leave a trail
If you contact anyone through this site or elsewhere, use an email account the other person does not know about and cannot access, and check your sent items and deleted items afterwards.
A note on this site
This is a speaker's website, not a support service. Nobody here is monitoring messages around the clock, and the contact form should not be used to ask for help in a crisis. The helplines above are staffed by people trained for exactly that, and most of them are open at any hour.
This site sets no cookies, runs no tracking, and loads nothing from other companies. What it cannot do is control your own device. See what this site records.